Wie kann Trauer Ihr Selbstwertgefühl beeinträchtigen?

There is no such thing as a 'normal' or standard reaction to losing a loved one. Everyone is different, and so each experience of grief is different, including the length of the grieving process.

While processing this loss varies from person to person, there are some key common experiences. The intense emotions caused by bereavement can negatively affect someone's Selbstvertrauen and sense of self-worth - their Selbstwertgefühl usually suffers.

How does grief affect self-esteem?

Alivia Rose, psychotherapist and spokesperson for the UK-Rat für Psychotherapie (UKCP), explains the relationship between grief and self-esteem: "When we are going through grief, emotional stability goes out the window and we lose self-confidence.

"We can feel as if we've lost who we are because of the extremity of the emotions we are feeling. The level of intensity of these emotions - the shock, the anger - can make us feel out of our depth. We lose our sense of self because we no longer recognise ourselves."

Rose describes how people who have experienced grief often cannot believe that they have felt the emotions they have. These emotions often leave people feeling scattered, exhausted and unable to focus or find joy in things they previously could.

The accumulation of these changes can make people feel out of control and out of character. When we seemingly lose traits that we associated with our identity, this dramatically depletes self-esteem. Studies have explored the link between grief and sense of self, and research suggests that grief negatively impacts self-esteem.

Why is good self-esteem important?

Our self-esteem can be defined as the beliefs we hold about ourselves. A person with low self-esteem has a low opinion of themself and and a lack of belief in their own worth. This is closely linked with low confidence, which more specifically describes how a person rates their own abilities and skills.

Having low self-esteem has a big influence on our minds and our actions, causing us Stress and holding us back from experiences that could positively influence our health and our lives.

While the connection between grief and self-esteem is well-established, it's important to seek support if your self-esteem has been severely knocked by the experience of bereavement. Having low self-esteem isn't a mental health condition in itself; however in the long-term self-esteem issues are linked to depression und Angstzustände.

Grief and self-esteem: what can be done?

The best thing you can do is to speak to others. There is no shame in seeking support and to find ways that help make coping with grief a little bit easier. When grief affects your self-esteem, it can be hard to ask for help. You may not feel that you are worthy of help, but the most important thing you can do is recognise good self-esteem as one more thing that grief has taken from you.

If you can recognise the hit that your self-esteem has taken, then you can start to see it as something that can be rebuilt, with a little support and time.

"It's important to speak to someone who understands grief," advises Rose. "They can then help you to understand grief as an emotional wave."

Rose encourages anyone struggling with grief to seek support from a therapist. They can help to landmark the significant stages of the grieving process. Crucially, they can also help to normalise what you're going through, and the emotions you're dealing with.

"Alternatively, speaking to someone who's lost someone themself can also help you to understand grief as a wave of different emotions that will eventually pass," adds Rose.

Having your emotions validated, and realising that what you're experiencing is nothing out of the ordinary, is an important step in rebuilding self-confidence and self-esteem.